Wedding FAQ's

Answers to the frequently asked questions we're getting

What to wear?
Eric is wearing a snazzy Ralph Lauren tux and I'm wearing a long white dress. It's an afternoon wedding, so other than the wedding party black tie is not necessarily (but if you have a tux, feel free to dust it off), but everything else is game as far as I'm concerned. I think general wedding attire should be fine: most of the ladies will wear sassy springtime cocktail dresses and men will have a jacket and tie. But if you want to pull out your old kilt or other sequin gown, or other entertaining outfit, by all means. Whatever makes you comfortable.

Are kids welcome to the ceremony?
One more thing about the sitter situation - someone asked me about having them at ceremony. I think it would be great to see them there (so I get to see them all). We will definitely have a couple the sitters on call at the church to play with them in case an hour long ceremony gets too long for their attention spans. Please contact Laura (info below) if you need help with sitters during the reception as soon as possible. Again, while I'd love to have them all, we're far over capacity for the hall, so there's just no space for them to sit.


Are kids welcome to the reception?

I've had a few questions about kids being invited to the wedding. While we would love to be able to extend invitations to all our favorite little munchkins, unfortunately we are seriously be bursting at the seems at the reception hall (I think we'll be more than 20 people over capacity), so unfortunately we just can't cram in any more bodies, so only children who are in the wedding will be able to join us for the festivities :( I hope you all understand the dilemma.

The good news is you get a fun night out on your own and Laura has graciously arranged for her 17-year old, very responsible niece and her friends to help out with the baby sitting. Please contact her if you would like help in securing a sitter and if you have specific needs. I think most people are staying at the Cow Hollow Inn, so we would probably have 2 to 4 kids per sitter in various rooms at the hotel. We'll also have some helpers at the church and the reception hall to keep kids in the wedding occupied (and then bring them back to the hotel on the shuttle if they reach their limit before you do). Please email Laura or give her a call if you have questions 925-254-6768 (mailto://wittenberg@comcast.net/)

We're not sure how many girls we can get, so if you do want help with sitters, please contact Laura as soon as possible and let her know if you have special needs.

What type of ceremony are you having?
The whole 9-yards. It's a full mass with Eucharist. Catholics and Episcopalians will feel comfortable, but for those of you who aren't, this involves standing, sitting, kneeling, reading and lots of singing (and we expect everyone to sing). Father Jason says it should take about an hour. We'll also have some fun surprises that we hope will keep you entertained.

Where are you registered?
While your presence is gift enough for us, people keep asking where we're registered. Eric's the king of the kitchen so it's pretty fun shopping with him. All our registry items are at Bloomingdales and Target. For those of you who don't have a Bloomies near you sorry for the inconvenience - unfortunately Macy's didn't have the china pattern we wanted. Everything is available online these days. I always hate to pay retail, so here are some ways around paying full price
* I just got an email from Bloomies with a 10% off coupon for people you purchase registry items online. BWCFTAF.
* Our china pattern is Haviland Amaryllis, which is readily available a lots of online discounters such as upscale gallery , paris jeweler, and I'm sure several others. FYI, we didn't register for the full setting (we don't really need a dozen more tea cups and saucers), rather we selected separate items: dinner plate, dessert plate, and soup cup, and a few chargers (for smaller parties). Plus the pickle dish and a large platter.

What's for dinner? And who's the caterer?
Wendy, of course. If she can cater her own wedding, pulling off brides maid duty and preparing your meal, will be a piece of cake. And while Eric's no longer at Niman Ranch, we hopefully will get some yummy meat anyhow. Of course, we'll have a great wine selection.

Will there be cake?
Yes. Ron really wanted some - and we found a delicious one.

Where are you going on your honeymoon?
When we first started dating we both said we wanted to visit Southeast Asia and we decided top on that list was Malaysia and Singapore. We leave Monday afternoon and will take an 19 hour flight to Singapore and then to Kuala Lumpur (named the most affordable big city in the world) for 3 nights. Then we'll head over to the Tioman Island in the on the east coast of Malaysia, which apparently is where they filmed the Bali Hai portion of South Pacific. We'll be staying at the island's fanciest resort, Berjaya Tioman Beach Resort, which is still quite affordable. After 3 nights in paradise, we'll head back to civilization and spend 3 nights in Singapore with Eric's cousin, Jason and Misha.